Have you ever thought about what truly motivates you?
Recently, I was reading over my journal entries and found a recurring theme that scared me. It seemed like each day I would write down my goals, but week after week, month after month, I wouldn't get any closer to reaching any of those goals I had set.
As I kept on reading, I noticed this overall tone of fear was everywhere. In my writing it seemed that I would continuously come back to the fears I have, and why it was those fears that kept me from accomplishing my goals. To be honest, I started to understand that fear wasn't only effecting my goals, but also my relationships and overall quality of life. Over the years fear had slowly taken the tactical advantage over me. I let fear walked into my life and become my constant companion. A lot of my daily choices were driven by fear. I noticed fear is what ultimately kept holding me back from living the life I wanted to live. In this game fear was winning, and by a long shot.
Fear is an interesting thing. On one hand fear can help you do amazing things, but on the other fearing something for too long can have some serious consequences. Our bodies are extremely sensitive to fear. The second we feel something isn't right, our brains send a chemical throughout our body that makes our heart race, breath faster and even tightens up our muscles. Essentially, we think it's time to fight for our lives. If I was about to be chased by a bear this response would be necessary, but I've found myself living a lot of my life nervous or scared of what's around each corner. I was wearing myself out by fear.
Fear can come into our lives in many ways. Often without us even noticing. It could be starting a new business or relationship. It could be what others think of us when we try something new, or maybe accepting that new role at work that we are nervous about. It could be as small as taking on the daily challenges of life. Whatever it may be, fear shouldn't be the motivating factor that gets us to act.
3 Ways to Better Motivate Yourself
1. Finding Your Why
If you have a clear why behind what you do, you will find it easier to get up and get stuff done. Each time fear creeps in, repeat your "why" inside your head to remind yourself that you have a bigger purpose. Simon Sinek, the pioneer of finding our why said,
"Working hard for something we don't care about is called stress: Working hard for something we love is called passion"
If you haven't found your why, take some time to find it. It will change how you live your life.
2. Understanding Your Potential
Whenever I have a lack of motivation, I try to remind myself of my potential. Each one of us has the potential to accomplish truly amazing things. We all have something inside of us that can push us to transcend any obstacle we face. We need to change our mindset of who we are and what we can accomplish. We need to dig a littler deeper. David Goggins, came up with whats called the 40% rule. Jesse Itzler said of Goggins 40% rule.
"He proved to me right there that there's so much more, we're all capable of so much more than we think we are." Thus, the 40 percent rule. "He would say that when your mind is telling you you're done, you're really only 40 percent done."
You can learn more about the 40% rule in David's book.
3. Love For Yourself
Love can be one of most powerful motivators. However, at times loving ourselves can be one of the hardest things we do. It's easy to be self criticizing, or compare ourselves to others. Especially when we are down, we tend to look up at others. We can't give into that. In a very real way, we need to love ourselves enough, to allow us to go after our dreams.
Each time you choose to not let fear win it will become easier and easier. Life's challenges will always find a way in, but avoiding them out of fear will only make the problems worse. Without a doubt, this is way easier said than done. I hope this doesn't come across like I have it figured out. Many of you that know me, know I am about as fearful as they come. I am far from where I feel I need to be, but I have let fear into my life too many times and I am sick of it.
Don't let fear hold you back.